Ya’ll need to watch this.
"as an African…" [x] - Chimamanda Adichie’s “The Danger of a Single Story”
What to include in a self-care plan:
-a list of your favourite quotes/ sayings- these should help motivate you, give you hope and lift your mood a bit!
-a list of people you love & their contact numbers- this is really helpful to know that people are there for you. You can also agree it with them in advance so you know it’s ok to contact them if you need.
-photos of happy memories- hopefully these will help you remember that life has good times, even if you don’t feel like it now!
-a list of your hopes and ambitions for the future- as with the photos, hopefully this list will help you feel life is worth living, even if you don’t feel it right now.
-something to do- distractions are always great when you feel bad! This could be anything you love doing or which simply passes the time!
-a list of situations you’ve coped well with in the past- this one may take time to compile but is really helpful in challenging thoughts that you can’t cope.
Hope some of you find this helpful xxx
It makes me sososo happy how many notes this has! I don’t know what inspired me to do it but if it helps any of you as much as it helped me then it’s worth it, right? I love everyone who’s liked or reblogged this soooo much xoxoxooxoxoxox
Just because they’re family doesn’t mean they’re right.
Wow that was so personal
I tried to tell my mom I thought I had a mental disease.
She told me that she thought my soul was broken and I was going to hell.
We were having this conversation because I lied about my homework.
Blood isn’t always family, and family isn’t always blood.
I have a similar relationship with my mother. My mum believed that only physical abuse was abuse. Which is not at all true.
The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.
In short, the relationships you make by choice are stronger than the ones made by birth alone.
Remember, though: some people actually love their parents more than their friends.
I thought my last statement made that fairly clear though.
I guess I don’t really mention my father that often. I love and respect my father, not out of fear as with my mother, but out of a genuine supportive relationship built over time. He’s the rock in my life, and one of two reasons I didn’t bail from home when I was 15-16 years old.
The other was to protect my younger sister from my mothers hurtful words and actions. But that’s a story for another day.
Familial love is the best kind. Some people had supportive and respectful relationships with their parents, and some didn’t. I’m sorry if it seemed like I was implying that all parents are horrible people. I’ve experienced both sides of the coin, and know that is not the case.
There will always be those people that tell you that your biological family is more important than anything, that friendships are nothing compared to it. And there’s nothing wrong with believing that, there’s nothing wrong with loving your family more than your friends. But some people don’t get that love and support from their families. And you can still love your family while acknowledging that they are unsupportive and abusive.
And some abusive parents aren’t necessarily bad people. Maybe they just have a very closed mentality. They’re unshakeable and think they know what’s best. Some were probably abused themselves and there’s a tendency for abused kids to become abusive parents themselves. I could go on and on, but my point is, if you think nothing beats family, that is wonderful, you are lucky to be able to feel that way, but please don’t shame anyone for finding more comfort in friends than in blood relatives.
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